I found myself recently looking online for a psychologist in my city. I was surprised at how many used those annoying pronouns in their bios such as “my pronouns are she/her”, but I guess there is plenty of money in treating the gender confused these days as social contagion has sadly infected so many, young girls in particular.
It is fair to say that I was not in the best of moods when looking for a psychologist, as it meant admitting that I needed help. In fact, I was feeling pretty low, which is why what I discovered next was extra shocking to me.
I found a woman who looked nice despite her nose ring and the fact that she made a big deal about her race in her bio. I clicked to learn more and discovered that she/her had outlined what she/her was looking for in a client. Yes, you read that right. I didn’t get to choose she/her…she/her got to choose me.
Initially, her requirements seemed reasonable. She wanted to treat groups as well as individuals and she wanted to work with teenagers as well as adults. None of that excludes anyone so I was fine with that and I also realise that people have their niche, as some may only work with teenagers, for example. It was her final preference that made me feel worse than I already felt. She wanted only to deal with clients from one racial group. My need for her help could go hang. She was not interested in helping me because of my race.
Trying to be an optimist I thought maybe it is only she/her. Maybe the other psychologists won’t be racist towards their clients. The very next one I clicked on was clearly European, so I thought, aha, she won’t exclude me as a client. Wrong!
This is what she had to say about what she was looking for in a client…
So my views on gay people have to match hers before she will treat me? How can psychologists get away with this kind of nonsense?
People at their lowest, looking for help, are not going to react well to being told they are not suitable clients because of their race or their personal views. I know that I didn’t react well. In fact, it upset me enough to break my long holiday from writing articles due to my workload as the BFD editor to write this one.
Have I got the wrong end of the stick? Would you find this off-putting as I did? Do you think it is OK for mental health professionals to exclude people based on race and personal views?
